PARENTS’ TIME

MOTHERS’ & FATHERS’ TIME WITH CHILDREN

OBJECTIVE ASSESSMENTS: TIME DIARIES

BreakfastMothers’ time with children has overall, remained surprisingly high across recent decades, measured from time diaries in 1965 through the present. Despite the fact that mothers, even those with young children, marched into the labor force in unprecedented numbers in the latter part of the 20th century, married mothers’ time in primary activities with children and in “total time” has actually increased overall.

Married fathers have become more involved with children and spend more time in child care. This includes time in routine care (like bathing, feeding and grooming of children) and in interactive “fun” activities (like playing games, reading and so on). They also spend more “total time” with children than in the past, as measured by time diaries.

A note on the terminology of “time with” children:  When parents’ time is recorded in time diaries, they indicate all activities they have done, sequentially, over a 24-hour day (typically “yesterday”). Researchers often code adult diaries into broad categories of paid work, housework, child care, leisure, and personal care (such as grooming or sleep).  The mother pictured here would likely state she was “feeding my child” and this would be coded as routine child care. If a mother said she was watching television, and at the same time folding laundry, she would be coded as engaged in a primary leisure activity, and a secondary housework activity. She would also be asked –“While you were watching television, who was with you?” She might say “my children” in the case that they were nearby as she watched TV. This latter type of parent-child time is included in “total time” with children in our aggregations.

The idea of “quality time” can mean many different things. Most researchers consider quality time to be certain special activities like talking to, reading with, or playing with kids. Some researchers would consider time with a “warm” parent, who is loving and kind, to be “quality.” Some might consider parents’ or children’s own definitions about which kinds of time they believe is “quality” time. It may be useful to make a distinction between time in all activities (aggregated to a total or quantity of time with children) versus time in certain “quality” activities.

HOW DO QUANTITY & QUALITY TIME RELATE TO CHILD & ADOLESCENT WELL-BEING?

Even as mothers’ time with children has increased from the 1970s, concerns about time seem to have strengthened since mothers of young children marched into the labor force in increasing numbers from the 1960s through the 1990s (Bianchi 2000; Bianchi, Robinson & Milkie 2006). Some refer to the current era as a time of “intensive mothering” (Hays 1996) in which mothers are expected to individually devote enormous amounts of time and energy to ensure children ‘turn out’ to be happy and successful. A brief attached here discusses the amounts of maternal time, specific kinds of quality time, and children’s and adolescents’ well-being.

SUBJECTIVE DIMENSIONS IN CULTURAL & SOCIAL CONTEXT: FEELINGS ABOUT TIME

How today’s parents feel about their time with children is quite complex. Particularly among parents working long hours, my research shows how feelings of time deficits with children are quite common (Milkie et al. 2004; 2010) and that these have implications for work-family balance and for mental health (Nomaguchi, Milkie & Bianchi 2005; Milkie 2010). Alleviating work strains through reduced hours and more flexibility would likely reduce parents’ feelings of time deficits with their children, and parental well-being.Photo of a man reading with a child. Flickr Creative Commons image from: More Good Foundation: https://flic.kr/p/aqDAUE

The cultural context of parenting — of intensive mothering and involved fathering, create a bind for many parents. In an individualistic society, with few supports from the state, there are high expectations that parents, particularly mothers, will produce successful, happy children on their own (Milkie & Warner, 2014). This places mothers at risk of blame for larger social and cultural problems, and shifts attention away from solutions that could enhance the well-being of children and families (see Milkie, Pepin & Denny 2016).

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